When was the last time you gave yourself a second chance?
I ask this because I never really thought about it until recently. A second chance to find your purpose, overcome fears and insecurities, or even loving yourself? Do you or have you done that?
If you are anything like me, you have given people a great many “second” chances! They have lied to you, maybe cheated, hurt you mentally, emotionally and/or physically. You love them! You can’t imagine your life without them so they get another chance to get it right. And another and another. Why do we not offer the same courtesy to ourselves but give it freely to others they may not even deserve it?
Who Are You To You?
They all play a position in your life. Maybe it is your lover, best friend, spouse, co-worker, boss, or a parent. The question is who are you to you? Are you your best friend? Are you even an associate to yourself?
You give everyone else a second chance. No matter how many times they have disappointed to you in the past. They get another chance to love you, connect with you, or to say “I am sorry” one more time. You even go to a job that you detest, where you get mistreated and undermined (and sometimes underpaid) daily….they continue to get another chance. You tolerate it everyday!
Don’t get me wrong. We should practice forgiveness. We should show empathy often. I know for a fact that many of these people in our lives do deserve another chance. I am just saying…why not YOU?!
I am so good at celebrating everything I do for the first time. Every time I try something for the first time, I am so proud and I am throwing a little party in my head. When I go for it…doing something that I am uncomfortable with or something that scares me. I am my biggest fan…the first time! This chick is making posts, texting my bestie…I want to jump for joy.
Succeed or fail, I need to carry grace with me beyond that moment. I need to be willing to give myself another chance when I don’t quite hit the mark of perfection. Another chance to succeed where I previously fell short, at forgiving, with overcoming fears and insecurities, or just going after what I say I want. We need to see ourselves deserving the same chances that we so willingly give to others.
When we give ourselves another chance, we are kind of releasing ourselves from our mistakes. We are letting go of our ego and creating space for greatness. There is no need to settle with what the first chance brings! When we decide to give ourselves another chance, we are making the decision to believe in ourselves again…just like we believe in the people that get another chance to get it right with us. Remember them? Now, remember you…
Believe in Yourself
Know your worth! You need to know that you, just like your loved ones, deserve a chance to get it right. There is nothing that you can’t try. You don’t have to compare what you decided to do with anyone else. Your progress is your own. This journey is your own and there are people that love and support you in it.
When I think about the amount of times that I mistreated myself because I didn’t get something right, goodness! The things that I told myself and the faces that I made at myself in the mirror…man. I would have never done that to a friend or loved one. Why was it easy to do it to myself?
I Deserve It…And So Do You!
You are worthy of a second chance! Hello…do you hear me? Yes, you! You can have as many “second” chances as you need. A second chance to love yourself better, to listen to your body and/or be mindful of what you put in your body.
We are learning and we may need a few chances when it comes to taking good care of ourselves. Many years have been given to taking care of others and making sure that they are okay. We had to make sure that our world around us was functioning properly. What about the world WITHIN us? We need to do the work on the inside as well and be kind to ourselves along the way.
Do you need a second chance to learn how to truly be yourself, unapologetically? A chance to learn how to manifest and attract what you deserve? How about learning how to protect your peace and energy? I know these have been prominent in this chapter of my journey and I am sure that I am not alone.
This Is How We Do it
This may be news to you but everything that is going on around you has nothing to do with you. It is not always going to go your way and that is many times for reasons unknown. We have to decide that we will be ok even if the outcome is not what we were looking for.
Saying that you will be ok if “…” happens eliminates everything else being ok to happen. That is a set up for unhappiness! We need to not only participate in our lives, but be ok with the outcomes. Be ok with trying again. Give yourself another chance to receive a different outcome. You owe it to yourself to give you another chance! You give them so freely to others…you are just as worthy.
Take a breath, slow down…..What do you need right now?
You are worthy of another chance….