We encounter people every day. Some of these people are in our lives for a lifetime and others for a brief experience. Reasons and seasons…and when we see and learn the difference, that becomes part of our “glow up”.
When you have your experience with people and find that someone is “not right for you” and move accordingly, you are officially having a “glow up” moment. I have come to a point where if I just don’t vibe with someone and just recognize that they are not my person, I just step away and move forward. Good riddance to bad rubbish as the English say. When we make the decision to stop trying to impress others and also to stop forcing relationships, we win…we are delivered from that stress. Plain and simple.
We need to see that there are people who are right for us and others that are not, PERIODT!
Realize that the right people, the ones that truly belong in your life for the duration are out there. Until you find those persons, do not settle. You really don’t have to.
We should live in confidence that we never have to settle just so that we are not alone. Ok, I will say this again, you do not have to settle for anyone just to not feel lonely. You can say goodbye to anyone that does not add to who you are and do it respectfully. No hard feelings at all…you are just not “my person”.
Sometimes we are lead to the wrong people and unhealthy relationships…we can thank our ego and impatience for that. They make us hang out with people that add no value to us and are uninspiring. You know that our ego wants everyone to like us and our impatience makes us want people in our lives right now whether wrong or right so that we don’t feel alone and/or so that we have what we think all of our friends have.
We have to stop being scared to let go of relationships that are clearly going nowhere. The ones that are not what we really want nor deserve…and I am not just talking about romantic relationships. I mean all of the “ships” you have going on in your life. Let’s let go of the relationships that do not make sense and make room for the ones that will. I am clearing a path for the people who will be “my people” and letting go of the spectators.
I am going to be nice about my departure from those that no longer serve good in my life, I am. I am not ghosting anyone or acting standoffish. I am just going to create boundaries that work for me.
Recognizing that someone is not for us and they do not have to be in our lives and we do not have to be in theirs can be a good thing. A lot of us hold on to things and people for fear that we may not have any other options later on. We can learn to let go and not feel bad..this can empower us not to get hung up on just having someone in our lives…an ex…a bad friend…a selfish coworker…a greedy relative…whomever. We don’t have to overthink on why a date went wrong or worrying about impressing others so you can join their friendship circle. We do not have to think about being anyone other than ourselves in order to have people like us. For real!
Not everyone will be your person and guess what? They do not have to be!
This year is here and it is time to respect myself, establish boundaries and create true, deep, lasting relationships with people that are meant to do this journey with me and you should do the same. We need people in our lives that we do not have to explain ourselves to, especially our nos. We need people who do not stand in the way of what we want and be honest when it seems it may cause us harm, who encourage us, who bring out the best in us…the ones who are not impressed by the same things that everyone else is, the real ones that will call you out on your BS and love you through it.
This coming year, I hope to discover the people who are my people. I am not going to be afraid to let go of the ones that do not serve good to my soul and/or add value to me. Bye to the people that are not my people….Goodbye! That means checking my ego and curbing my impatience and remembering what I want and need in this life.
Life is so beautiful and the people in it are too so I want to meet as many people as I can. I want to hang out, network, talk to as many people as I can, go to restaurants, parks, malls, and farmer’s markets. Definitely not going to shut myself off to the world. I am just gonna be aware of the people who may be in my life for a reason or a lifetime. I won’t hold on to people who have served their time and brought the lessons that they needed to bring. I am going to get out there and live…but learn to let the right people in and say goodbye to the ones who need to go.
I have let people go in the past…plenty! I have learned so much from the experiences that I had while they were in my life and I regret none of them. Those experiences and people helped me grow into who I am today and I am forever grateful. I believe that I am more centered because of them. They weren’t my people but I am definitely better for having them in my life for a season.
Now on to making this year my best year yet…
Happy New year to you!