There is nothing wrong with doing it alone

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In the past few years, I have taken the initiative to start doing things on my own and frankly, my experiences have been amazing! I spent a lot of time (and money) asking people to go with me places because I thought I would look weird hanging out alone. I mean, I admit, the first few times, I was uncomfortable and felt weird but once I got past all of that BS, I enjoy every moment I am hanging out with me!

I believe that I enjoy it more now because I have been spending so much time alone getting to know me. My boys are older and have their own things going on now so I have time to spend with myself learning what I really enjoy (and do not like at all) and trying new experiences which have been absolutely amazing. I look back on the time I spend with me and I smile because I was able to truly be me, listen to me and be in the moment with myself. There is nothing like listening to your own heart so that you can take care of and love yourself more fully.

DoingitaloneI take myself to lunch, I have done movies, shopping, spa visits, beach trips, and a host of other things by myself and I enjoy it. I meet people and talk… even those experiences are fun and entertaining. I do not think there is anything wrong with getting “alone” with you to do something you enjoy or even to try a new thing. If you can’t stand to be alone with yourself then you may need to take a look at some changes you may need to make.

Are you afraid to be alone? Is that out of your comfort zone?

I think being able to be and go places alone is something that really shows you how independent you REALLY are. As far as my personal growth is concerned, my solo experiences are where I really get to see how far I have come because there are no distractions and no one to convince me of anything. In order to grow, we have to come out of our comfort zone. We should all take time to date ourselves. I have built up so much confidence the more I spend time with myself doing things. I get so much out of it but the most important thing is I get to see who I am and fall in love with me more and more as I grow.



I love people so it was so easy for me to rely on others to do something with me and I

would work around their schedule when looking at my social life. What?! Yes, I did. If they could not go, I would not go. That got me to the point where I did not do anything but work and go home. That is when I took the time to look at me and what I wanted for my life and I took the plunge to start going out alone and I have had so many experiences since.


And guess what? You do not have to be a bold, confident, and independent person to do things alone. You can be an insecure person…just like the rest of us. You just have to make the decision to LIVE…on your own terms and timing. You have to ignore that little voice in your head that tells you to be afraid or worry about what someone else will think about it.


doingitalone1The more you hang out with yourself, the more you will want to hang out with yourself! You will get to know you better…your likes and dislikes. You may even build up the confidence to only allow what’s good to enter into your space. When you learn how to love you thoroughly, you can show others how and your other relationships benefit from you spending time alone.


Now I am not saying that you should ONLY spend time alone. Like I said, I love being around people. I really have just learned to value that time I spend alone to get refreshed and filled up so that I can be my best around the people I choose to spend time with.


img_1108We should not sit around and wait for people to choose to help us fill our social calendar up with fun things to do. You need to take control of your days. If you follow me on my social pages, you see that I go do things and I have no one with me …I just go and live! I work hard and I am loving me (most days) so I challenge myself. I look at what is going on around town (or out of town) that I may be interested in and I explore. Hanging with me has never been a boring time and I find out more and more about myself each time. More of me to love…..or change……growth ……


5 Comments Add yours

  1. Emmanuel Brown says:

    Alone time and doing it on our own is a necessary ingredient for growth. This gives us the opportunity to learn more about ourselves, how to trust ourselves and rely on ourselves. This is an excellent article and I enjoyed reading this ALONE.

    1. dgsunshyne91 says:

      My alone time is something I look forward to. Thank you!!

  2. saquankaseem says:

    I was just talking with my daughter about this very thing. I’ve had a difficult time transitioning to this forward thinking. I enjoy doing things with people. However, I believe I have missed out on many things waiting. Time to do it even i’m alone when I do it!!

    1. dgsunshyne91 says:

      It is such a freeing thing to love your own company. There is a difference between being alone and lonely and I’m so happy we both can see that and pass that gem on to our children. Thank you!!!

  3. saquankaseem says:

    Just spoke with my daughter about this morning about this very thing. I enjoy doing things with people. However, I think I’ve missed out on many things waiting for people. Time to live and do me with or without others!!

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