We all have a past. A past that many of us don’t want to think about. One thing we need to stop doing is looking back at it with shame or regret. I look back at the break ups, the times I said yes when I really wanted to say no or the times when I really should have said no. My failures, rejections and my many mistakes. Especially the times when I felt insecure and lost.

Although I did not love the way all of those experiences left me feeling, there is so much power in them. They have also contributed to the person I am falling in love with today.

Regardless of how we feel, we do not really want to erase our past. We are erasing more than the event. The knowledge and wisdom that came from having them is being erased. We are erasing who we are now because we would not be who we are now without them. There will also be the chance that we repeat those same hurts because the lesson is missed.

The Lessons

When we make decisions, when we make mistakes, we have the opportunity to learn…to gain wisdom to move forward with. The lesson is everything! Think about all you have learned from your mistakes. Not the feeling of making them, but the lessons you have learned from making them.

We need the lessons! I know, they are not always fun and some of them are very painful. But we need them. If all we ever experienced was wins, we would not be grounded people. We would not know how to appreciate the wins if we never took a loss. And we would be a little spoiled and wouldn’t be able to function in a world that was not on our side.

You Are Greater Now

Because of your past, you are much greater now!

We all have a choice. Are you going allow your past and the pain of it to become your suffering in life? Or will this experience be what moves you forward…be a catalyst for change. Change is always going to happen. It may not happen on our timeline or the way we planned, but it’s coming.

We are not supposed to stay the same. And why would we want to, really? We are always meant to evolve…thank goodness. I think that the greatest Peace, for me, is that things are not meant to stay the same. Our goals change, our mindset changes, our visions…change! This is a good thing! We have that right and we can have those changes without apologies or explanation. I think it is one our greatest gifts.

The Gift of Humanity

The ability to change is a true gift when I think about it. There are times when we actually make the decision to change. Then there are those times when we are forced into uncertainty and have to make a decision to change. Either way, we are always going to have to evolve. We are always BECOMING.

Knowing this…learning this, I am better at moving on with confidence. I am working on being grateful for every catalyst that moves me forward. This woman is still a work in progress.

I am better at “holding on”. Having patience and trusting the process. We have to be better at trusting the process. Trusting that there is a reason for our experiences and they all give us and opportunity to learn and to love.

Choose You

We can choose to live in our past and use it as a crutch/excuse as to why we will never be more than we are today, or we can turn it around. Maybe you should embrace the fact that you survived and look forward to the amazing possibilities that await.

What will you choose to do?