Happy birthday to me! So excited about year 48. Yes, I said my age and I really don’t have a problem with it. When I hit my 40s, I was weird. More excited! It was my 30s that made me cry and say, “woe is me” daily. I don’t really know why. They just did. And now here I am older, wiser, and accepting nothing but the best from here on out.

I have to say that for the most part, I am good to people. Not perfect by any means, but I support, love, and respect others always and I believe I deserve the same. I think that if a person is willing to give to you in any capacity, they deserve to receive the same back…at a minimum. You deserve what you put into the world. I deserve what I put out into the world. That is it and that’s all!

Know What You Deserve

Why do we talk ourselves out of the things we want in this life? We lower the bar and settle for less. Throw our standards out of the window just to have the bare minimum knowing it will never be close to what we really deserve.

Have you ever heard of imposter’s syndrome? This is the idea that we are faking life. It is when we feel that we really don’t deserve the success we have or the good things in life like happiness. We are out here questioning whether we belong in our current space. Are you kidding me?  We are out here living beneath our privileges.

This kind of self doubt is not cool. When we say that we deserve success, whether we are working toward it now or we have it, we cannot doubt for a minute. Are you excited about the happiness, the connections, and love in your life? It’s there because you deserve it! You should not doubt that. And I know how hard it is. I have talked myself out of so many possible huge opportunities because I doubted that they were truly for me.

When you get a moment of success, do you ever assume it was a fluke? Like that would never truly be what happens for you normally? I used to have a problem taking a compliment. If someone one complimented my hair or called me beautiful, even amazing, I just thought that they were just being nice or patronizing me. I can’t even talk about the thoughts that went through my head. If I did respond, I would almost try to talk them out of the compliment.

Finally, I Know What I Deserve

Before I came to my senses, I spent too much time trying to find a way to justify the thinking I had that I did not deserve the good things that came my way.  Spent a lot of time reframing who I was and what I was worth to others in those days. I was afraid to tell others no because I had an approval addiction that made me think that they wouldn’t like me if I said no.

I went so long feeling that way that I was really just accepting whatever others decided that I deserved. No boundaries for others. I was just convinced that I couldn’t be the one who deserved good things and ultimately, happiness. People would have treated me that way if I did right? I am thankful to GOD  that I do not feel that way about myself anymore. No one will ever have the opportunity to treat me any other way than what I deserve now.

So I am here to tell you that if you are willing to love, support, respect and give to others, you deserve the same in return at minimum! If you are giving your time , attention, and transparency to others, you should be able to get that in return, no hesitation!

You deserve all of that and more! Believe that.

Do Not Forget

In the middle of being in our relationships and doing life, we sometimes forget this truth. Please be snapped back into reality ASAP and know that you deserve at least what you give . We should want nothing less and the ones that love us should not have a problem with giving it to us, whatever it is we need.

How many times have you given and not received in return? If you are anything like me, I would say a lot. I will say that I do not give only to receive in return but it would be nice to see that a person appreciates what was given. Not receiving in return is no reflection on your worth. It doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve to have the same in return. You are worthy! Know that and let it sink in regardless of what happens in reality. You deserve everything you think you deserve.

You deserve it all! Everything your heart desires and more.  We deserve to experience the good feelings that we give others.