It Is Ok To Not Feel Ok. Allow Yourself to Feel

I have always been on some kind of self love journey. The last 5 or so years have really been when my focus was high. What made that happen? Relationship changes, medical diagnosis, realizing how grown my children really are, and noticing how it all feels in and to my body and mind. I had to do something. I am a happy person for the most part. On the other hand, I have my down days. It is ok not to feel ok. Allow yourself to feel. I got so much healing out of knowing that.

I have to remind myself often that I have the right and the capability to be confident and sexy. Loving myself and more importantly …trust myself and know my worth. When I miss my mark, I can be kind to myself and keep pushing. I also have to remind myself that I can be angry, disappointed, and down. Remember…it is ok to not feel ok. Allow yourself to feel. Be kind to yourself and know that the feelings are temporary. Most of the time, we can control the feelings because it is our choice to feel them.

We are not perfect.

None of us will always know exactly what we are doing. We are going to have times when we feel lost or get disappointed. It is going to happen. Just when we think we have it all planned out and all will be perfect, we fail or fall short. It is all good. This will probably surprise you, but it is really ok if you are not always amazing, centered, and compassionate. We should be allowed to get angry or upset, or to feel embarrassed or frustrated when life calls for the emotions. You are allowed to feel your emotions and learn how to respond and not react.

We are human. Oh yes, we are. We have the right to feel whatever we feel whether things go our way or not. We should never be ashamed of those feelings. Give yourself the space to feel and move according to your capabilities to do better.

your feelings matter

Our emotions are always valid. It is important for us to know how to respond and take care of ourselves in those instances. When we get angry, we are allowed to BE angry. We are allowed to feel hurt even when we are working on trying not to take things personally. We can feel wronged, betrayed, abandoned…whatever we feel. You don’t need to be some perfect person that never does anything below perfection or does not get down on themselves when they do.

We are human for goodness sakes! The journey is about us and we are learning.

Because we are human, we do not have to be ashamed when when we fall short of perfection. There is nothing wrong with feeling the way you feel and  honoring that. I really think that we should go easier on ourselves when we feel emotions that many people would consider negative.

everything is coming up roses

We live in a world where everyone wants to be positive. They say positive things. They appear on social media as if they have it all together. Always happy and feeling great. We all give it a try. Be optimistic. Say our affirmations. Meditate. Have the answers they everyone wants to hear.

It is not a rule that we work to put a positive spin on things. We put so much pressure on ourselves to look a certain way to everyone. Experience some rejection…”Well I am not everyone’s cup of tea”. Someone always has something critical to say about you? You may think to yourself that you don’t care what anyone has to say about you. If we don’t believe those things, we should not be telling ourselves those things. Period. It is ok to not feel ok. Allow yourself to feel. Period. Good, bad, or indifferent. And certainly it is ok to not be ok. We have the right to feel what we feel, no matter what anyone has to say about it. Feel your feels! It’s healthy to feel and acknowledge your humanity.

stop ignoring your feelings

We all have good days and bad. We need to acknowledge what we feel without apology and embrace every one. Do not ignore any of your feelings. Don’t cover everything up with a smile and fake cover up saying. How will you learn from the experience or how you feel about it if you ignore what you are feeling? Our feelings tell us so much. We get a lot of information from them. When you have an experience or are in the presence of others, how you feel tells you a lot about the environment and the people in it.

Every one of us has the right to be happy. It is ok for us to be loving, forgiving, attractive or not, be kind and compassionate, and learn from our past mistakes. We can also be upset, disappointed, or hurt. You can feel insecure, scared, depressed or whatever else you feel. No need to feel guilty or ashamed of those feelings. We are living in our humanity and it’s all good. Not one of us will escape those feelings. And guess what? They are temporary. You will not feel one way or the other forever. We will go through what we go through. There is an opportunity to GROW through what we go through.

It is time to heal….


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