I had a moment during my “me” time where I asked myself, “Are you doing what is best for you?” I mean, am I making decisions FOR me and living my life FOR me? What would your answer be if you asked yourself the same question?
Answering that question was hard for me because I know that most of my decisions have a lot to do with my family and very little to do with me. I am really learning a lot about myself in this stay-at-home season and I know for sure that this is one of the things that I feel needs some adjusting. I know that I can truly do what’s best for me! Doing what is best for me will be helping the people in my life…they get a better me and we all win. SO there is nothing wrong with us being a little selfish so that we can create a better life for ourselves….and others benefit as well.
I am an over-thinker, so for the most part, I live my life in my head. That place can be filled with doubt and anxiety, I cannot lie. I am practicing; I am trying to live more from my heart than my head just to see if things change for me. Maybe I will finally start making decisions that benefit me first. I mean, after all, I am the most important person in my life! If we are not fulfilled and whole, how can we be good for anyone else?
We all have a purpose and there are some amazing things that are going to happen because we’re where we are supposed to be, doing what we are supposed to. It may not feel like it, but we are the bomb! We need to start seeing it and making our decisions based off of that. It is okay for you to choose happiness for yourself before you pursue it for someone else…hello!
Look at you! Look at what you have come through. Your heart knows what you need and what you deserve. Your heart knows that you should make decisions that work for YOU! So step up and think about you…if only for a moment.
Am I making decisions for me? That is a question we should ask ourselves every day. Let’s not forget about ourselves and call what we are doing “living”.
Am I hanging with these “friends” because I want to be there or because they expect my presence?
Am I dating this person because I can see a future with him/her or does it feel more like an obligation?
Am I doing this because I want to or because I feel like I have to?
Most of us don’t try to ask ourselves questions like this. If we did, we would probably do less of the things we don’t want to do. Finding out why you are making the decisions that you are making will be a complete game changer in how you move and in really getting in touch with what you want and need in your life.
As I have been doing this, I am starting to see that I am not being selfish…I am taking care of myself. Remember, taking care of yourself IS taking care of others.
You are not being selfish when say no and decide not to explain why.
You are not being selfish when you make yourself a priority.
You are not being selfish when you decide to be happy.
You are not being selfish when you decide to start over and act on what you want.
You are not selfish if you decide you will no longer settle in your relationships (business or pleasure), friendships or career choices.
You are not being selfish if you decide to go after what you feel you deserve!
In this crazy time, I am learning just how strong I am and how I deserve to be appreciated, loved and seen. I am sitting myself down, finding out what my goals are and I am going after them. I am expecting more out of myself and others but not getting upset when expectations are not met. I am gonna keep trying until I get what it is I say that I want. I am living every day with much anticipation and enthusiasm for what it is to come. Because I want to!!! Moving from my head…to my heart.
Spend a few minutes before you make a decision and ask yourself if you are making the decision for you. Is this decision going to serve good to you or please someone else more? The more you ask yourself those questions, the happier you will be when you see that you are beginning to say YES because those decisions are being made for YOU. You will do it more and it will be without apologies.
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